Keeping Feelings "Bottled-Up"

I was thinking about the concept of anger getting "bottled-up" when I was thinking about the thing I'm writing for that oblivion.net contest. I never understood the idea that anger gets accumulated instead of being released gradually and gets released at some tipping point. Here's what I think actually happens. I'll use a child and parent as an example.

Child is unhappy. Let's say he dislikes school and tells his parent why. Parent responds like one or more of these:

* Parent says child is wrong and tells child not to talk about it.
* Parent says that child is right but there's nothing that can be done about it so he has to go along with it.
* Parent avoids giving any sort of input. Parent may say that the child is just going through a phase.
* There are probably other things I could add.

Parent doesn't help. Child is frustrated.

Eventually, child is angry. Let's say he does or says mean things. Parent responds like one or more of these:

* Stop being mean because people aren't supposed to be mean. Sometimes some other stupid justification is given.
* Actually, let's punish you for being angry.
* Parent asks why child is angry but does not try hard to figure out why or makes the child feel stupid for being angry. This includes the previous two responses.

Again, parent doesn't help. Child is angry at parent and frustrated that even acting angry couldn't get the parent to care.

In summary, parent makes child unhappy and punishes child for saying that he is unhappy, which would be rude. Child acts nice in fear but eventually hates parent so much that he doesn't care about the consequences. I think people get angry and do bad stuff because they have had their feelings repressed and are trying to get back at someone or are at some level hoping to get people to notice that they are unhappy and do something about it.

By Will

Why do I feel so depressed?

I have been thinking a lot lately about what exactly is the cause of depression and if it really exists. The other day I was reading the newspaper and came past some animal rights article about how pigs were farmed in horrid conditions, kept in tiny little cells so small they couldn't even turn around to sniff their asses, and fed 'I can't believe its not food.' Living under such conditions the pigs developed all kinds of diseases, one of them being, you guessed it, depression. So, you put a little piglet in a little holding cage and never let it out, feed it crap, and never let it socialize with its own kind, and the pig gets depressed (shortly before turning into delicious bacon). That's how pigs get depression. So how can we take the pig example and apply it to humans? Easy. You take a little humanoid and you put it in a little cage, you feed it all kinds of crap and never let it socialize with its own kind.

If you look at humans in a pure Darwinistic sense you will see that by nature we are, hunters, gatherers, tribal, territorial, and driven by very strong desire to mate. Now take a human and put it in a classroom, office, supermarket checkout, all day long keep it's in a little cage. Then send it home to another little cage, apartment, broken home, mummy and daddy don't get along. Feed it food out of cardboard boxes, paper wrappings and plastic sealed bags. Sit it in front of a television watching bullshit TV shows or put it in front of a computer so it can jack off to hentai. Do this and your human will develop all kinds of diseases, one of them being, you guessed it, depression.

These animal rights freaks took time out of their ever so important existence to tell the world all about pig injustice. What about human injustice? Society is a 2 by 4 foot cell so small I can't even turn around to sniff my ass. And then I wonder why I'm so sad... - PIMP

How Do You Find Out What You Are Good At?

We are expected to know these things and plan ahead. School pressures us into choosing courses in a matter of days. Because of all the choices we have today our lives have become more and more uncertain. I have absolutely no plans for the coming months and years whereas if I lived hundreds of years ago I would have been preparing myself for the family trade.

Only recently have I found out what I am good at. My greatest skill is finding patterns and solving problems. This makes it simple for me to learn technical things because they all follow set patterns. Unfortunately this skill is the only one I really have. I do not have very good social skills, my body is weak, and my will often succumbs to the path of least resistance instead of the path of greatest good.

Finding what you are good at is hard. Skills and talent turns up in many places. Think of what you do on a daily basis and try to find out what parts of your mind and body you use. If you play a lot of video games then you may have many talents and skills. Strategy games need quick thinking and planning, shooters need good reflexes and coordination, and online games need teamwork. The idea of my best skill just came to me out of the blue. I was thinking of random things then I suddenly realized what I was good at. That only happened two months ago, meaning I didn't know what it was for almost 17 years.

I do believe that learning and education can help people out both at work and in their daily lives. But education does not necessarily mean public schools or college. Learning is something that happens all throughout life and is not always dependent on books or even teachers. Certain skills need to be taught and demonstrated but not all of them. My grandfather left school when he was 13 but he served in the British Navy and had jobs in public works (engineering) for most of his life.

Here is what I recommend you do: stop worrying. Some things just take time. Don't stress yourself thinking about the future. Try your best to find what you are good at. There really isn't much else to say. It's just one of those things that only you can do. We can travel along as companions but we cannot force you to follow the path. - Kirby

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